Help, please!

Hi everybody;

I'm so sorry if my english isn't good enough, but I'm so tired... I just want to sleep. To be honest, I couldn't think of anyone else to pour my heart out with... you guys were my first thought to express myself without being judged for best or worse, so here I go.

Past May, I quit my job as a copy writer senior at an advertising agency to make myself a creative director somewhere else, because I was getting stuck in there... couldn't find time for myself... I worked nearly every day... some times, even had to spend the night at the agency. I spent almost 4 years without vacations, slowly climbing the stairs of my profession and longing to be the head of my own team. I'm not telling you I was some sort of "workaholic"... no, I was this regular creative guy supporting my art director and doing my stuff during ad campaigns... until I had a nervous breakdown... that's when I said: ENOUGH.

One day, one of my uncles came to my (your) house to check on my grandpa and offered me a job at his Industrial Corporation (this belongs to our family), as the Corporate Image Manager. He'd double my wage, give me a private office and of course creative liberty and flexible schedules. I was so excited, I thought I was gonna have much more time for me. This was the perfect opportunity to trust myself, to have faith in my work and creativity. I was so HAPPY.

Unfortunately, all my uncle's promises faded away... he lives now in Houston and left a close group of friends in charge, some of them are his brothers-in-law. It's not my intention to "judge" them, but they've wanted to take away or "steal" the company from us since my uncle got married, I know that and in a certain point of view, that was one good reason for me to take that job.

As soon as I stepped into the building, this people started to put heavy barriers in front of me. They placed me with two engineers inside a cold, dark office, with no parking lot and no computer. I then e-mailed my uncle, urging him to authorize a new computer for me so I could start to work right away. I also asked him if I could change my schedule, while the city offices were completed ( I have to cross the state to get to my job ). He said there was no problem... Anyways, from that day on, I've worked hard on the new logo, new web site, electronic signatures, plastic and cool ID cards, uniforms, promotional materials for our clients... gosh, I've designed almost 100 different things in six months. Most of them were approved by my uncle, but this people won't let me produce any of them... all they say is "Oh, Chava, our budget is low...", "Ok, we like this usb's, find out how much it takes to produce them and let us know", or the classic: "Ok you have green light, we'll give you the money on Friday..." and it never happens... their excuses are childish and are starting to p**** me off because I feel USELESS and I don't want my uncle to think I am. They even told my uncle I do nothing but waste my time and believe me, please believe me I've urged them, day after day, to authorize my budget (gosh, the company gains 1 million dollars per project) and they simply won't spend one thousand dollars on my work, there's always an excuse. I'm so sad... I've tried to meditate, to calm myself, to simply breathe and contact my "superior" being and my angels, but I can't, I don't know what to do... now I miss my creative team, my former clients, I miss the person I used to be, I miss those promises, they've already sold the city offices and I will have to still cross the state to get to my job... now I feel lonely... so very lonely...

Anyway, that's all I have to say... I hope someone reads me...

Love, Light and Happiness to all.

Yours;

Chavarock

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Comment by Claudie Brand on November 23, 2010 at 3:21am: Chava, I read your post, you are not alone and I pray and trust the Universe, Primary Source, God will create a solution for the best outcome for you and all concerned, So It Is...

Love, Light and Blessings...

Comment by Mj on November 23, 2010 at 3:25am: Lo siento mucho..I am verry sorry you are going through this.I don't. Have have very good advice for you,all I can say is to try to remain positive keep working hard & it'll all work out in your favor.you have the power to turn this around or @ least try to see this as a learning experiance.I am very aware given your current state this sounds like an obvious & lame pep talk,but just know you are never alone. Sending much love & serenity your way
Mj aka melody peace love &light

Comment by Michael Goebel on November 23, 2010 at 3:27am: Chavarock, it sounds like you need to assert your position within this company and the only person who can help you with that is your uncle. If this cannot be done, then I think you had better find somewhere else to work where your efforts are appreciated. Surely, if this company belongs to him, he could do something ?
But are they actually paying you wages ? - if so, then it really shouldn't matter so much if they approve your work or not, as long as you get paid for doing it...

Comment by Kalimu on November 23, 2010 at 3:31am: Hey Chava, your cries for help are heard by many beings who would love nothing more than to assist you. It's very good that you pour your heart out and suppress none of the feelings you have. Later on, when you have naturally become quiet and receptive, your feelings will tell you exactly what to do and when. Trust the being of beings, your deepest self to bring to you whatever is needed for your development on all levels.

Much love and a big hug for you from Kalimu ***

Comment by Starry Night on November 23, 2010 at 3:37am: Chava, I have a similar life story. I was an advertising/marketing manager for 23 years back in the 70s to mid 90s. I came a up against similar treatment. That is in the past now. That way of live is no more. Corporations and companies that allow and practice this type of selfish, negative, low vibrational, dark behavior are falling apart all over the world. I think there is not much future for you at this company. I humbly suggest you trust your heart and keep looking for your work dream team elsewhere. To better understand my reasoning for this comment, the attached link may be helpful in better understanding the state of our world in general at this time in history and the stage you find yourself a player on.

Latest ECETI Update
http://tinyurl.com/295xwor

Namaste', Starrynight

Comment by Seventh Element on November 23, 2010 at 3:56am: Is this something you could do freelance? Even if you went back to ur old place they worked you into the ground didnt they... Ive seen similar things while working in Graphic Design, I realised I couldnt live with such control or stress, many people were very ill.

Comment by Todd Darimont-kaana' ki'in yaah on November 23, 2010 at 3:57am: Chavarock,
Wow, such talent, creativity and motivation to succeed should not be wasted on those who are not appreciative of such gifts. It saddens me, brother, to hear of your situation. I cannot tell you what to do, tho having worked in the corporate world before and having upper management experience as well, I can only offer what I would do, but this journey is your own, so take my advise with a grain of salt.
When a promise is made to you from anybody higher up on the payscale than you, always always always get it in writing! Having caught shoplifters for many years as well as working internally on employee thefts, I cannot emphasize enough, how important documentation is. Likewise, make sure that there is some verifiable record of your efforts, so your uncle has some tangible evidence that supports your word over theirs. He is family, and should be understanding, but keeping in mind he is obviously a business man as well and this sometimes results in a cloudy mind and biased opinion.
Of course this is assuming you wish to continue working for such an establishment. It is not my intention to preach, but perhaps your talents would be better appreciated by some humanitarian organization, if not by the organization itself, then most certainly by the people it is benefiting.
That is what I would do if I was in your position, and I only have limited knowledge of your real predicament, so mayhaps my advise is ill.
But in my experiences with people seeking help, it turns out that often they know exactly what they should do, but affirmation from another can sometimes help them to take that first step.
Follow your heart brother, remain true to yourself and you will find you are always on the right path. Namaste!
Living to love, loving to learn and learning to live- t

Comment by Achad on November 23, 2010 at 3:58am: Hey Brother the truth is, it's about you, even thow we are all connected, I still say hey its your life and your life along in the real part. Ok Brother first just let them go, if it hurts and the work is uncomforable. Tell your uncle where you stand. Tell him what you think as a business man and tell him what is going on. And I mean tell him.

If he doesn't listen to you and say something that is a mess. From what you say about you and your work. Start your own Business and take there clinets and see how they like you now. If you don't think of yourself you will have a bad life. Even thow we are connected. Come on Man. Think about it you are you and me is me ok everyone else we are connected in a differnet way on a different plane. So live your life. Tell your uncle your demands. Maybe he's looking for a leader so these guys are pushing you around. Remember life is a test and you are facing one right now. I hope this help May you see the light.
Blessed BE!

Comment by Lesley Diana Halsackda on November 23, 2010 at 5:20am: I`m sorry to hear this, try to speak to your uncle, you sound like you have lots of talent, don`t be pushed around it`s not fair. We all thinking of you sending my love and blessing Lesley uk

Comment by Elaina Skye-wing on November 23, 2010 at 5:26am: These are just some of the questions floating in my head. Is there a way you can talk your uncle into giving you more authority than you have (on paper) since the business is in your family, in other words can he give you the authority to authorize and approve your own budget? If not, could he or would he (your uncle) approve your budget on his end? sounds like your uncle needs to wield more power, and step up to the plate, but you have to give him the opportunity to step up by telling him everything that is happening! Also, if for some reason my advice doesn't work, just sit back, save your money, and start your own company where YOU are in charge, then no one can get in your way but yourself! Good luck, and Namaste!

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