Starseed/ Non Starseed Relationships

  I wanted to know if anybody else feels strain on their relationships right now. Ive been in a 3 yr relationship with a man , that's now breaking apart because he doesn't understand my Starseed awakening. I feel lately weve grown apart and don't seem to be a vibrational match anymore. He stayed the same and i'm ready to ascend to 5d. Ever since i awakened to my starseed identity it seems to be harder and harder for him to understand all this. He just doesn't believe, and is stuck in the matrix kind of life. He may or may not be Starseed himself, but i wanted others opinions of how they feel about Starseed relationships with Non Starseed people. Is it possible??

it's getting harder and harder for me and my significant other due to my awakening...

thanks ...all feedback would be much appreciated

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Permalink Reply by Puff-the-magic-dragon on April 24, 2012 at 7:18pm
It is tough!
I try to listen to my guides and their guidance
Everyone in our lives is someone we have been guided to and can learn from I believe!
Permalink Reply by Vness on April 27, 2012 at 2:56am

I am also struggling with this. I recently had a healing with Kalananay and this is what she said...

"What you have described is somehow a part of this journey too. As this type of a relationship is both a test of our resolve to not cave into another's opinions or lack of belief in us or what we know." I

'm not sure if this was something that resonates with just me, but it makes a lot of sense! I also went to a discussion on cracking the code to relationships with Phyllis King. One thing she said that stuck out to me was the fact that the relationships of two polar opposites is usually the most beneficial. The reason for this is because you know yourself and your own perspective so when you meet others similiar to you its a connection and it validates you, but when you meet someone completely different from you are enlightened by a new perspective and way of being...good or bad. This is true and beneficial, at least for me because everytime my partner would doubt me or not believe me, it only made me want to prove myself more, which made me do more searching within myself, and more research on what I know now. In fact, had I not been going through this all I would not have found out that I am a starseed and I probably wouldn't be here right now writing in this forum. The fact that I was so different, only helped me find my true self. You see, each relationship we get into we come out with more than when we went into it with...again, good or bad. All of relationships are a learning experience and challenge. I'm not saying that is all they are, because most are based on love, but you can love many people, but just not be meant to be with them always; For a time, but not always. However, it is all a choice in the end. If you want to be with someone like this than you very well can make that choice, but if you decide to stay then you also need to accept the fact that they are different. You can not change a person who does not want to change. People will change at their own pace and time. I also recently watched a video on Bashar who says....

"Sometimes walking away is the most constructive thing you can do because you are showing them the consequences of their behavior. And if they actually want to interact with you than they will have to change and become more compatible with your frequency in order to get you back into their reality. So sometimes the most positive thing you can do is actually disconnect from interacting with someone who is of an incompatable vibration to you. Not always, but that may be the last result. You may need to do that and recognize it as the most compassionate thing you can actually do, because you're showing them what the consequences of their behavior is... on you. However, you always have the opportunity to reflect to someone what you believe their vibration is doing. Most people in that sense who are projecting onto others of course are simply projecting their own fears about themselves onto others: a fear of their lack of power, lack of connection, lack of belonging, lack of self worth and are projecting it on others to distract themselves from having to look at that belief within their own being. If you recognize that, you can love them for what they are doing and reflect back to them that you are willing to support them in discovering what fear they would have to have in order to have to lash out at you the way they are lashing out. Because you know that such lashing out is a reflection of fear. Now, if they are afraid to look at the fear theres not going to be much you can do to help them, but you can always offer to recognize that the only way you would be lashing out at me is if you are in great fear. Somehow you have a definition of me that triggers something in you that makes you feel threatened. I do not have the intention of threatening you, I love you. Let me help you find out what that fear is, we can work on it together, we can discover it and together become more powerful in this sharing. If they're not willing to do that then say I love you anyway, goodbye."

I hope this helps some of you, as it has helped me tremendously.

Permalink Reply by Carolyn Lazare on April 27, 2012 at 3:06pm

Great advise Vness..you really have made me think....this is such a difficult time, and by the way i LOVE Bashar!

So nice to see that i'm not alone and others are going through the same thing..it's comforting.

I always suspected these things scared him and that's why he reacts this way.  It's the unknown.

LOVE AND LIGHT

Permalink Reply by Carolina Garcia on May 7, 2012 at 4:20pm

Speaking about people in general when it comes to relationships in general, some people do mature and some don't. It all depends if this is something that you want in life and will be actually happy to live with.

19o3qxtviuhanPermalink Reply by 19o3qxtviuhan on May 9, 2012 at 6:00am

Yes Carolina! My Lover From the past won't evolve with Me And I'm Filled With Sorrow But i Have to Go on!!! I wish him nothing but the best but i still feel his sorrow and more. i only wish he really knew who i am and was all those years ago. to say it has been difficult would be a gross understatement. Best Wishes!

Denis

Permalink Reply by Spirit Speaker on May 9, 2012 at 7:18pm

The point, according to me, isn't being a Starseed or not, all have to be measured only in the spiritual progress one achieve, the similiarity of spirits or the karmic dynamics. I'm not a Starseed as far as I know, none told me that and I never felt like I come from the stars, but still I don't feel I belong to Earth, humanity or my family, but I know if I'm going through a human experience there's a good reason for that, like it is for every person here.

When someone spiritually awakens is quite unavoidable that unaware people start to perceive you as a "stranger", they'll first ignore you, then attack you, whatever if you say something to them or not. I had a great improvement in my spiritual path in these last two months, and I haven't told anything to anyone of the people I commonly see and know, the result is that many of them, even familiars, start to reverse more negativity on me and attack me more than before. It is natural, all we have to do is to give them our inconditionate love despite everything, accept and respect other's beliefs, since none of us own the Truth, and try to don't lie to our own heart; if we don't feel anything for someone, or if he/she starts to hate us for what we are becoming, the laws of karma and magnetism decrees that, sooner or later, our relationship will break, whatever is our family member, or friend, or partner, starseed or not.

Not to be polemic or aggressive, but I noticed many people here miss the point forgetting too much frequently we are all spiritual beings and coming from another planet or not means quite nothing. This is a frequent and dangerous mistake, but I'll talk about it in a more appropriate post eventually in later time. Love & Light

Permalink Reply by Nikita on May 10, 2012 at 10:48am
Reading all these Posts I feel that many starseeds are going to experience these relationship problems with their non Starseed partners. A fulfilling relationship requires a certain balance and equality to properly thrive. This is generally speaking in terms of money, attraction, moral values and beliefs. Beliefs can vary in a relationship and still thrive however when certain balances in a relationship tip dramatically like a person earning vastly more money than a partner or a person is more attractive it can leave the other partner secretly envious or always jealous and the relationship can take a bad turn. In case of a Starseed it's knowledge, belief and power, which can seriously unbalance a relationship. From a non Starseed point of view an awakening Starseed is in their current awareness an unattainable goal. If your partner makes more money there's always a chance that you might find a better job to match, but when your partner is an awakening Starseed and finds out they are an incarnated extraterrestrial from another planet how can your non Starseed partner ever dream to attain a balance with you. Your telling them you have extraterrestrial origins places you outside their reality bubble. The first type of thing they might fear is if you are a Starseed then how can you be their soulmate? Frightening of course because they feel they love you but if you are different then they feel they will lose you to your origins if they are real, so the first thing they do is act out against it, try to tell you it's not real so you can remain the same as them, and stay with them. They instinctively know that if you are not the same as them then there is a higher chance of losing you. Stating that you are of a different race entirely places you at a distance. Many people dream of sharing heaven together with their partners and reincarnating with their soulmates time and time again. But what heaven would a human and Starseed share? It's different realms for one, and what about dreams of finding you in another life? If they are human they'll be incarnating here for quite a while to come but as a Starseed your incarnating all over the universe. The fantastic things about starseeds that you talk about with your non Starseed partners are the very things creating more distance between your partners and yourselves because you are placing yourself in a position of separation from them. Which would scare anyone in love. Human nature, they won't admire you for it they'll fear the separation it causes. Strong Love instinctively wants the opportunity to grow and last and when a person claims to be a Starseed it kind of defeats the romantic dream.

From a Starseed point of view this kind of relationship is detrimental to your growth. It has a very negative low vibrational resonance that may slow the awakening process. Everyone has needs, love is a great thing to have, but with a partner who is limited in understanding and unwilling to grow with you and tries everything to regress you down to a mundane level they understand, is not healthy and is detrimental to your development. My advice is put some thought into choosing your partners if you want a fulfilling relationship. Someone of like consciousness. You should be able to share your entire life with your partner. My current partner is a Starseed, we didn't even find out until after we got together, and the relationship is so fulfilling I've never been able to share with anyone my life like I have with him. The most fulfilling relationships are ones where you can share everything together. Where love has a chance to grow in optimum conditions. In my experience it's best if partners are equal.
Permalink Reply by Jen on May 10, 2012 at 1:08pm

Holy cow you are so right!  This is kind of where I have been coming from but I never would have been to able to put together this analysis and have it so crystallized.  This is my "a-ha!" moment.  i have a much clearer picture now, thanks to you.  Have a beautiful day dear Nikita!

Nikita said:

Reading all these Posts I feel that many starseeds are going to experience these relationship problems with their non Starseed partners. A fulfilling relationship requires a certain balance and equality to properly thrive. This is generally speaking in terms of money, attraction, moral values and beliefs. Beliefs can vary in a relationship and still thrive however when certain balances in a relationship tip dramatically like a person earning vastly more money than a partner or a person is more attractive it can leave the other partner secretly envious or always jealous and the relationship can take a bad turn. In case of a Starseed it's knowledge, belief and power, which can seriously unbalance a relationship. From a non Starseed point of view an awakening Starseed is in their current awareness an unattainable goal. If your partner makes more money there's always a chance that you might find a better job to match, but when your partner is an awakening Starseed and finds out they are an incarnated extraterrestrial from another planet how can your non Starseed partner ever dream to attain a balance with you. Your telling them you have extraterrestrial origins places you outside their reality bubble. The first type of thing they might fear is if you are a Starseed then how can you be their soulmate? Frightening of course because they feel they love you but if you are different then they feel they will lose you to your origins if they are real, so the first thing they do is act out against it, try to tell you it's not real so you can remain the same as them, and stay with them. They instinctively know that if you are not the same as them then there is a higher chance of losing you. Stating that you are of a different race entirely places you at a distance. Many people dream of sharing heaven together with their partners and reincarnating with their soulmates time and time again. But what heaven would a human and Starseed share? It's different realms for one, and what about dreams of finding you in another life? If they are human they'll be incarnating here for quite a while to come but as a Starseed your incarnating all over the universe. The fantastic things about starseeds that you talk about with your non Starseed partners are the very things creating more distance between your partners and yourselves because you are placing yourself in a position of separation from them. Which would scare anyone in love. Human nature, they won't admire you for it they'll fear the separation it causes. Strong Love instinctively wants the opportunity to grow and last and when a person claims to be a Starseed it kind of defeats the romantic dream.

From a Starseed point of view this kind of relationship is detrimental to your growth. It has a very negative low vibrational resonance that may slow the awakening process. Everyone has needs, love is a great thing to have, but with a partner who is limited in understanding and unwilling to grow with you and tries everything to regress you down to a mundane level they understand, is not healthy and is detrimental to your development. My advice is put some thought into choosing your partners if you want a fulfilling relationship. Someone of like consciousness. You should be able to share your entire life with your partner. My current partner is a Starseed, we didn't even find out until after we got together, and the relationship is so fulfilling I've never been able to share with anyone my life like I have with him. The most fulfilling relationships are ones where you can share everything together. Where love has a chance to grow in optimum conditions. In my experience it's best if partners are equal.
Permalink Reply by Nikita on May 10, 2012 at 3:52pm
What a lovely thing to say Jen. I'm glad my overly analytical mind has been put to good use lol. I'm usually accused of over thinking things and over analyzing. Nice to know it has a positive effect in regards to relationships. Maybe I should pursue a path as a love guru hehehehe. You have a great day as well Jen!
Permalink Reply by Rebecca Bless on July 10, 2012 at 11:04am

One of the lessons ive learned while on this world is that as starseeds, almost no one (with the exception of other starseeds) will understand us. No one understood Jesus; its part of our duty to learn to understand others, and learn to deal with them. We have very little power (im not saying we cant, its just a challenge) to change others right off the bat. I think you should stay with him, keep loving him; or if you feel its time to move on, then move on.
I went through something very similar a few months ago with a bf of 5 months. In the end I broke it off. It was one of the easiest break ups ive ever had because I was read to let him go.
Make sure your ready.

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