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"Social Invisibility" - need advice
Hi beautiful ones!
recently I've noticed something that became a huge problem for me. Im not a shyest guy, strong opinionated and sociable. But people just avoid me, or sometimes ignore me or ignore my social initiative. No matter if Im smiling or angry at someone. Me and my voice goes through them and stay inaudible. In a big company if I want to say something people would turn their heads for a second as if it was a false alarm, and continue previous dialogue leaving me stupidly talking to myself.
As a result, my efforts gone down, though it didnt affect my self-esteem and thank god I am not sitting in the dark corner in depression.
Only reason I could think of, is something energetic...like lack or drainage.
Could you give me some of your guesses as to what it might be and what to do?
Many Thanks!
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Permalink Reply by ♥ on -
Auxillu, my first guess is your throat chakra not beeing open enough or open at all. This blockage and imbalance would explain a lot to why people dont hear and notice you when you use your vocal energy. I'd meditate on this chakra and also on your solar plexus at the same time as these two are strongly connected.
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Permalink Reply by Auxillu on -
Thanks! I will try that
Saeriel said:Auxillu, my first guess is your throat chakra not beeing open enough or open at all. This blockage and imbalance would explain a lot to why people dont hear and notice you when you use your vocal energy. I'd meditate on this chakra and also on your solar plexus at the same time as these two are strongly connected.
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Permalink Reply by Skorrow on -
The truth is that some of the more unawakened individuals can sense that you are different, that your meanings are coming from a different plane. They think what you have to say is unimportant because it does not hold any ground in the world they surround themselves in. Even if you are just being pleasant and casual, there is probably something about you that you can't hold back from them. Don't be ashamed of that. If I were you, I would quit placing my time and energy in any social endeavor unless there is a strong soul connection with the person you are trying to get through to. Why? Because you'll find worth in that. All else is vanity.
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Permalink Reply by Bethany on -
yeah I have had this problem my whole life. It's added to my severe depression over the years but now I know what's going on. I think Skorrow's right that they can tell you're different and that's a big reason why they ignore you. You guys live in different worlds and like Skorrow said the things you have to say are not important to their materialistic life. As a kid I would smile at other kids but they wouldn't smile back. if people were smiling and I smiled at them they would stop smiling. People can sense that we are different and have different energies and they don't know what they're sensing they just feel uneasy and prefer keeping their distance. I try not to hold it against them it's rarely out of malicious intent on their part. I won't lie though it hurts because we came here to help the planet and the people and they treat us like pariahs. It's like we hold out a silver platter of help and love and truth and they knock it out of our hands and speak ill of us. The best thing you can do is keep up your good vibration and continue smiling and speaking your truth when you feel the situation calls for it. I used to become vicious back but they made everything worse and then I was down to their level with no pack of wolves to cling to as they did.
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Permalink Reply by Auxillu on
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I only forgot to mention that "speaking" part is only a tiny pebble in the mountains that surround me.
It started about 6-9 months ago, before I was one year in depression and autistic self-retreat, sitting in the room, and occasionaly going to groceries having panic attacks speaking to somebody.
Now I study, and have to boil in this dynamic environment of social interaction every day for the reason to be succesful student, graduate and future employee. I smile, dissagree, can lead people with my ideas, and love somebody of the opposite sex.
But its all invisible for others, while its a big effort for me.
I'd keep my personal growth, though if this awakened state will lead me to an absolute seclusion, this would put heavy counterweight onto the scales.
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Permalink Reply by ♥ on
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i had the opposite happen to me my entire life. as a child and teen i didnt want to be noticed and no matter what i did or how much i tried to be invisible, it would not work...even my silence vibrates strongly and seems to speak to people, so they say. you mention it is a big effort for you and yet from your observation you remain invisible to others. I feel something in this. Perhaps you try hard to please people or to be heard? Maybe one key is also to stop expecting...people are just the way they are, we need to let them be. if we expect anything from them other than letting them be the way they are, then we will be noticing much. I stopped expecting people to not get obsessive about me and notice me so much and the moment i did, i stopped taking notice of it and detached, life is much better without this struggle.Keep shinning no matter what!
Auxillu said:I only forgot to mention that "speaking" part is only a tiny pebble in the mountains that surround me.
It started about 6-9 months ago, before I was one year in depression and autistic self-retreat, sitting in the room, and occasionaly going to groceries having panic attacks speaking to somebody.
Now I study, and have to boil in this dynamic environment of social interaction every day for the reason to be succesful student, graduate and future employee. I smile, dissagree, can lead people with my ideas, and love somebody of the opposite sex.
But its all invisible for others, while its a big effort for me.
I'd keep my personal growth, though if this awakened state will lead me to an absolute seclusion, this would put heavy counterweight onto the scales.
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Permalink Reply by Auxillu on
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By effort I meant effort to keep social life at a minimum at least. Also compared to my last few years of outcasting. It means that I understand that I have to respond to different social stimuli, and it is hard especially when I want to go "inside myself".
Though, I had the same childhood of everyone noticing me against my wish, and I was always the first to blame for others mishaps. Even have been expelled from the school wrongly accused haha :)
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Permalink Reply by ♥ on
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thank you for clarifying this for us. English isnt my first language so i tend to read some things differently at times :)
what has worked for me has been acceptance on all levels of myself and others...and letting go of expectations. I sense it doesnt matter much wether they notice us or not...it's our ego that reacts to this really and notices. Saying this, i would still suggest balancing your chakric system so the energy is flowing harmoniously. the times i've had problems with my throat chakra coincide with the times i felt like i wasnt allowed to speak my truth because others would speak over me, especially if they were angry! lol
xxx
Auxillu said:By effort I meant effort to keep social life at a minimum at least. Also compared to my last few years of outcasting. It means that I understand that I have to respond to different social stimuli, and it is hard especially when I want to go "inside myself".
Though, I had the same childhood of everyone noticing me against my wish, and I was always the first to blame for others mishaps. Even have been expelled from the school wrongly accused haha :)
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Permalink Reply by Enlil Ninlil on -
There seems to be an interesting book and movie to this topic:
The Perks of Being a WallflowerMovie trailer:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jcoMl3naEpo&feature=related
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Permalink Reply by Elshara Silverheart on -
What an interesting discussion. I think the problem is that many people have their attention focused on their own social group. They care but are not even aware that you are there because their mind is focused on something else. Call it a sense of personal gain, as is what I see it as but I have the same issue here and it truly matters who is in the room not what they are talking about. For people experiencing the opposite issue, the same applies only you need to change your social group to get any satisfactory results, it is all in how people see you as you are, not as they want to think of you as. For those who are doing this, it is a block in terms of communicating with the ego of someone, not the soul itself. I notice it more and more these days, it is sad to see but I move past it.
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Permalink Reply by Brigette on -
Hello Auxillu,
Well it's definitely a good thing you still have a healthy self opinion/ self-esteem despite what's been going on....I actually have a theory on this one you're not invisble obviously
When you're an indigo or a starseed people are either drawn to you or by in large they're wary of you they know you're different and often time people don't know how to handle different so they won't look at you try to ignore who knows maybe they are uncomfortable by your confidence...it's not neccesarily a bad thing to be vocal and speak your truth
Like others mentioned it could be your throat chakra it could be weak or closed and imbalance could manifest by not being able to speak your truth fear of others or anxiety....on the opposite side of spectrum an imbalance can manifest in talking too muchand over people
I was dealing with a closed throat chakra I could not for the life of me speak my truth and felt as though people could not hear me.....I was starting to crack so I saw an energy healer and she cleared up my aura and worked and all chakras esp the solar plexus....I can literally feel that my throat chakra is open
My advice to you pray/meditate talk to your angels or spirit guides ask about any blocks if they can help with it.....perhaps see an energy healer or shaman ask them to help you
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