Just lately I have felt like I am losing my family....... My family consists of my 3 children and my 6 month old grand daughter. I feel that I cant relate to them any more, and in conversations with them, its like they dont know me any more.

I dont know whether this relates to my awakening, and the subsequent feelings that have come from that, or whether it is something else.

If anyone else has gone through changes like this in their lives, I would love to hear how they handled it. Its not like a job that you can just leave. My children are my life. At least, they used to be......... :(

I mean, I am the top contributor for this month..... yay! Do I feel good about this? No. It means that I relate more to the people on here than I do to my own children.......

That cannot possibly be a good thing. So, please, I am still quite new to this in many ways. Yes I have had people commenting on how much I have evolved in the last 6 weeks since my awakening, but have I really?

Love and light to you all.

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You're not losing your family, they just don't understand what you're going through, or maybe you don't fully yet. I think most people go through these same feelings when they first awaken.  This is completely normal feelings to have.  If you're not in an environment of awakened people, you're gonna feel alienated (pun intended). ;) 

Hi Cheryl, How old are your children?

Mine are only young yet, oldest is 12, so they still depend on me loads and just accept my strange ways as oh it's only silly Mum.

If your children are older and have found their own way in life then their will be certain differences between you. How ever you will always be MUM, something that is completely irreplaceable. They will just have to adapt to your growth and respect your point of views, just as you have always respected them and their growth and views.

It may be just to hold up your hands and say okay we don't agree but I will always love you. As you do deep down know where the love for your children resides, that is you connection. Just be loving to them and they will eventually reciprocate.

Also your children don't have to be your life, they are an important part however may be it's now time for you to become no1.

I can share and understand what you're going through. All my life, I've been a "loner". Even though I was always exceptionally bright and always happy, people never gravitated towards me like they did my mother, brother and sister. I was never the "popular" or "charismatic" one. Even in family functions (especially this past Christmas), I can only watch as everyone shared stories, laughed and talked with one another. Even though I kept a smile on my face, I felt like dying alone in my corner.

Now, people will be quick to say, "Well, you're evolving faster than everyone. You're on a different wavelength." Do I find this to be true? I can't say. Even if my family don't subscribe to a lot of what I'm saying, I still find them to be the most loving and compassionate people around. There's many paths to our ascension and they don't have to read or understand your spirituality to gain access.

I myself, have been questioning what I believe in. I know ascension is right around the corner but sometimes, I even doubt the grand process of it. If it's a gradual, slow-burning process - than I definitely know I want no part of it. All my life I've been alone and I'm waiting for the " Big One " just so I won't off myself. So clearly, it would be disappointing if Ascension comes in slow, steady grains of salt or not at all. Just like Disclosure.

Anyway, I don't know if I'm of help or not. I don't have advice to give. I just know and I want you to know that I share every bit of what you're feeling. I don't know how it's going to be fixed or if it's ever going to be fixed but try to remember no matter what the circumstance, your family will love you no matter what.

I feel this way too, although it is easier for me to distance myself from my family because I'm the child and not the parent. It just makes me sad how we have this gift of compassion and love for humanity, but we can't connect with the people closest to us. I'm not sure how to reconnect with family, but...I just feel like you should continue to be true to your awakened self, because one day your children will come to need your wisdom and understanding, even if they don't get it now.

Hi Anne, my children are 19, 13 and 10, and surprisingly it is my 10 year old son who seems to understand more of, and started to show interest in, what is going on than the other two. :)

Ann Noble said:

Hi Cheryl, How old are your children?

Mine are only young yet, oldest is 12, so they still depend on me loads and just accept my strange ways as oh it's only silly Mum.

If your children are older and have found their own way in life then their will be certain differences between you. How ever you will always be MUM, something that is completely irreplaceable. They will just have to adapt to your growth and respect your point of views, just as you have always respected them and their growth and views.

It may be just to hold up your hands and say okay we don't agree but I will always love you. As you do deep down know where the love for your children resides, that is you connection. Just be loving to them and they will eventually reciprocate.

Also your children don't have to be your life, they are an important part however may be it's now time for you to become no1.

Thankyou guys.

Every answer has helped. :) Once again it is good to know that I am not the only one going through things like this. This incarnation we are in is like a big roller coaster ride, full of ups and downs, highs and lows. Last night when I wrote this, I was going through a major low......., but this morning, things dont seem as bad.

So, thank you all for your kind words and advice. Its great to be a part of this wonderful family.

Love and light to you all. Cheryl. :)

Hi Cheryl,

So you are not only going through your own awakening but some of the most difficult times as a parent anyway!!  My friends with older children do say its a mine field just for every day life. Plus don't sell yourself short you also have the baby in the house too, by the sound of it you are one of these rare breeds called Super Mums!

If its all getting to much, have yourself a time out, a deep long bath with locked door and earplugs, a visit to the spa, or a trip to a good book shop and have a coffee on your own.

Good Luck

Star Gazer ~ Cheryl said:

Hi Anne, my children are 19, 13 and 10, and surprisingly it is my 10 year old son who seems to understand more of, and started to show interest in, what is going on than the other two. :)

Ann Noble said:

Hi Cheryl, How old are your children?

Mine are only young yet, oldest is 12, so they still depend on me loads and just accept my strange ways as oh it's only silly Mum.

If your children are older and have found their own way in life then their will be certain differences between you. How ever you will always be MUM, something that is completely irreplaceable. They will just have to adapt to your growth and respect your point of views, just as you have always respected them and their growth and views.

It may be just to hold up your hands and say okay we don't agree but I will always love you. As you do deep down know where the love for your children resides, that is you connection. Just be loving to them and they will eventually reciprocate.

Also your children don't have to be your life, they are an important part however may be it's now time for you to become no1.


Thanks Anne. :)
Ann Noble said:

Hi Cheryl,

So you are not only going through your own awakening but some of the most difficult times as a parent anyway!!  My friends with older children do say its a mine field just for every day life. Plus don't sell yourself short you also have the baby in the house too, by the sound of it you are one of these rare breeds called Super Mums!

If its all getting to much, have yourself a time out, a deep long bath with locked door and earplugs, a visit to the spa, or a trip to a good book shop and have a coffee on your own.

Good Luck

(((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))

I wish I could offer more to this thread, but I am in a similar position and now have a new addition to my family which I feel a closer bond with than any of the others right now, and that is a very painful thing to say, but it is the truth. One can only do one's best to 'be'. Perhaps we are simply going through some internal stuff that needs addressing first: well, for me, that is probably the case, anyway.

Thankyou Steve. Is the new addition a baby? The reason I ask is that I feel a closeness with my grand daughter (who I am also raising), more so than with my other children. Its like we communicate telepathically. I instantly know what she needs most of the time. There is certainly a special bond there. I wish you all the best with your family too. It is certainly a learning lesson, isnt it?

Love and light to you, and your family. :)


Thankyou for those music links Leisha. Those first three were very relaxing. Love and light to you. :)
Leisha Gibbons (Miasha) said:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WcPVFmB9BAY

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x7RQNy6TsXc

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gRf_LoYMxcU

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B63VaCoJ750&feature=related

 thought id share some song links to help me get trhough my day they remind me so much of home and hope they make a difference to you :)

 

 

 

 

 

I think I awakened 12 years ago, and I can relate to the isolation you are talking about. I didn't have any family members who understood what I was going through. But over time I learned to accept that not everyone who loves me will understand me, no matter how much I try to make them see. I realized that I was trying to impose my beliefs on them, soo I had to admit to myself that I still had so much to learn. Now I just enjoy the beauty and the wisdom they (mostly inadvertently) share with me.

I have a daughter who is four months, and I think she is telepathic. When she was two months old I was holding her in my arms, and my mind wandered off into this dark sad place and almost immediately she let out the saddest cry. I knew then that I needed to be careful with my thoughts/feelings because she could sense them.

I wish you and your family love health and happiness for the new year! Thank you for sharing your experience and honesty :)

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