The Consciousness Has Shifted...The Awakening Has Begun
Just wondering if anyone else on here is like me in the fact that they react badly to harsh words or sometimes even just blunt words and even when someone is not being mean you still react sensitively? Because I have that issue, actually I've always had this issue - I guess I was born with it, I take everything either seriously or react way too sensitively towards it.
I've been told numerous times that I'm too hypersensitive and to stop and change this, but I can't stop as it's something that's a part of me.
I've heard that its a starseed thing - especially from those from higher realms but I just wanted to clarify to make sure.
i know you asked Dalj, Musuhi, but might i offer 2 cents to think about ?
i don't claim to know anything...but i do like to think about things...
you said : "if I'm attacked and sense no pain but rather satisfaction"...
the attacker could still be a very insecure person in pain at times...but they seem to get a false momentary feeling of "power" over someone else , that might give them satisfaction and makes them forget about their own feelings of inadequacy even for one moment ?
this is the same with gossips....they're only slightly different from the typical image of a bully, but they can do even more harm....
they all seem to crave the momentary feeling of power, of " being a somebody" at someone else's expense...
but....we must not forget that there are also sociopaths that have their own unique psychological mix, but i'm not talking about those here...
Dalj - yes, seeing it through your perception is enriching, I shall think more about that. For now, I think it isn't an insecurity that causes pain only, it's more like feeling of injustice. My disagreement doesn't change a fact I admire your calmness.
"As a kid I simply couldn't get mad at people" - hm, I don't remember myself as kid being particularly angry, I can tell honestly that now I am sometimes mad. Or maybe more frequently than sometimes ;) When I think about your words, it is indeed a kind of pain - when I fail to protect myself and others. Is understanding an acceptance? I would say not always. I understand why some people use others in a brutal way for their own benefits, however, I do not agree with that kind of behaviour. I understand why a particular person attacks me but I do not agree with it.
Or I misunderstood - you agree with the emotion, not the way it is expressed? Pain or fear justify attacks?
Yeees, I would add to it chilling with my 4 cats and a dog and I'm fresh and ready steady again. It has to wait though... Or I'll find pleasure in walking barefoot in the snow, what about that ;) My nephew gives me a lot of relaxation too, we've been destined to fool around together even before he came out of his mummy ;) Really, I remember when I asked my sis if I could touch her belly to feel the baby, she said it's too early for that, nevertheless, I reached to the baby with a greeting and that little rebel kicked me ;) All that creatures that came out of my sisters are my best friends ever, happy to have them. Music always calm me down too, especially when listened with my dear friends. Music will save us all, lol ;)
Adeomus, no, you cannot, now I'm gonna eat you, bon appétit ;) Everyone is welcomed to share. Don't worry, feel free to say whatever you think, honesty above all - I will not call you a liar or something like that. Yep, I asked Dalj and sincerely hoped there are others to give me some insight too.
"this is the same with gossips....they're only slightly different from the typical image of a bully, but they can do even more harm...." - I know something about that too. Still, I don't understand how can I remain calm when I see it harms not only me but also people dear to me. How to react to lies so they stop spreading, I don't know now. In the past I wasn't too concerned but now, when I see how much it can change my life, I wonder. Yup, it is a kind of an insecurity, but how not to feel it when others are endangered? I would love to hear your opinion.
Thank you both, guys, for the insight and your kind patience! There's a lot to learn ahead but I'm sure that I, Kaigera and the rest of our happy circle of super-sensitive beings will succeed in expanding.
To be fair, I was not implying that insecurity is the cause of all pain. If you read that part again, I was referring specifically to pain caused by upsetting words. This pain is mind/ego based, and can be traced to insecurity/fear. So I think we're on the same page there - no disagreement :) .
Injustice is different from the defensive nature of the mind/ego. Injustice can be heart based, in contrast to the defensive ego.
And yes, you are right - understanding and empathizing with negative action doesn't justify it.
*smiles* hi musuhi <3
you said "Still, I don't understand how can I remain calm when I see it harms not only me but also people dear to me"...
i completely feel you...it hurts me much more when someone i love is hurt, than when i am.
sadly i have had way too much experience over 6 decades, of needing to learn how to handle things...but i have learned.
Imho it's a matter of eventually becoming confident and experienced enough to know when and what to say, to finish them off, once and for all. Make it as brief as possible for the most impact. Practice if you want !
in my experience, it's best in front of witnesses because bullies are cowards and will fear saying anything to you and yours in future..they'll go elsewhere for their fix.
..Or...this will also send them somewhere else if they cannot bait you : To know when to blow it off with a lingering condescending look and a raised eyebrow, and let them hang there exposing themselves to the world for what they are. *smiles*...practice in a mirror.
it's also knowing what to say, in either case, to the dear ones who are hurt... reassure them that they are deeply loved, and that the offender has private issues that have nothing to do with them...that they act like that because they may not have enough love in their lives or are jealous ...
and to move on.
lol....in fact, this reminds me of a saying i love:
"To live well is the best revenge".
My mother saw this on my fridge and snapped " what do you mean by that ?!!"
...i said " exactly what it says."
she gave me a weird look and, for once, she was speechless and unsatisfied.
"To live well is the best revenge" - what an amazing coincidence - my mum says it to me all the time, when I come to her and we talk about me feeling a thirst for revenge - it always calms me down. My dear father taught me that too. So cool you reminded me that. My mum is also in her sixties and also been through a lot - I must tell her I've met you, she'll be happy to be aware of her next soul sibling :)
Thank you, Adeomus, I feel much lighter now.
Just embrace the present moment and its small miracles, more miracles the more we appreciate the present moment it seems.
To some lottery winning is their miracle
To a child a cat is a miracle, or a houseplant ... or just being alive :-)
Thank you too